Special Relationships

Special relationships:

it becomes a shift of values, how my every relationship is now examined under the light of forgiveness, exposing them for the base support they offer to my ego. This is what A Course in Miracles calls “Special relationships” they’re props that keep us firmly in denial to the reality of love. If I see anyone as offering an opportunity to bargain for my worth, or allowing me to feel as if their own value is somehow less than mine — then I have assuredly assigned them a role they do not truly own.

we make these relationships through hate and affection, they’re all judgment based, and subject to a quick change of our consideration. I might value someone for how they invoke my sense of romantic love and then be dismayed as my heart gets broken. How bitterness follows sadness, resentments set in, and this once true love is now special in an entirely different way. Yet this was never truly love, only a device for the ego to measure its importance. The Course tells us, our hearts remind us too, that love has no opposite, every relationship is valued equally for its worth.

love is always all accepting.

or it isn’t truly love.

so my special relationships are really tools of transformation, to just bring awareness to the values I assign to others, observing how my moods might shift in their presence. There’s no dramatic change here, it’s just a moments meditation as I remind myself that the presence of love is present in every situation and encounter. And with this soft notice…

my relationships are transformed.

seen as holy.

for that’s the truth of what they are.

~

Love, Eric